Why some women tend to gravitate to the “Bad Boy” image.

There are a few perceptions that lead me to believe that some women tend to gravitate to the “Bad Boy” image. First of all, the “Bad Boy” image shouldn’t be confused with the “Jerk Boy” image. If women admit being attracted to the “Bad Boy” image, they are probably referring to the confident, unafraid and risk taking men who have a good look about them and who will challenge the women they meet instead of kissing their butt. Women who say they don’t like the “Nice Guys” are probably talking about the men, who follow them around, hang on their every word and treat women like princesses. Women don’t necessarily want this and many of them would say they couldn’t respect a guy like this. So, if those are the definitions, then the reason can speak for itself. “Nice Guys” who are confident and demand respect should have no problem attracting women.

I asked women, “Why do women say they like nice guys and then go out with all the bad boys who treat them like crap?” Here is what one responder said:

Many reasons. First of all, this isn’t true of all women. Lots of us do have our bad boy phases (guilty), but most of us manage to outgrow that (thank god). I think one of the problems is that girls are taught that the bad boys are more interesting, and we are supposed to save them from their traumatic lives with the power of our love. No, really. Ever see the movie “The Breakfast Club”? How about anything starring James Dean? The bad boys are romanticized, and they always have girlfriends who save them or at least give them something to think about during their benders. Another problem is immaturity. That bad boy phase generally happens with teenagers and younger women. After a few jerks, we usually learn. Usually. And then there’s low self-esteem. If you think you deserve to be treated like crap, you will seek out guys who treat you like that. It’s probably unconscious and it correlates with the young woman/teenager thing. As women grow older and more confident, we kick these guys to the curb. And finally, there really aren’t as many nice guys as you guys think. A friend of mine who’s more bitter than I claimed that there were three kinds of guys: jerks, jerks who couldn’t get away with it so pretended to be nice, and genuinely nice guys. She claimed that there were very few genuinely nice guys out there. I don’t really agree with that, but her basic hypothesis has some merit (for girls, too: plenty of jerky women just can’t get away with it so they pretend to be nice). Chances are, if you aren’t really as nice as you pretend to be, the women actually looking for nice guys will see through you (having some experience with your type), and the other women will ignore you in favor of the real jerks. The genuinely nice guys that I’ve met have had no problem meeting women.

Probably the most common questions guys have about dating is. “How do I ask a girl out on a date?”

It can feel like complete torture to most men. Some guys would rather cut off their arm then go up to an attractive women, and see if they would like to go out sometime.

I have a solution to this problem for you guys. It will completely shock you with its simplicity. You ready?

Stop asking women out! (at least the way you have been)

When you ask a women out. She immediately gets into “date mode.” She starts thinking about, the commitment, the awkward conversation, does she have time for a person in her life right now.

You might think, a women won’t think about all that when the question arises. One thing you need to remember is, women think with their feelings, not their words.

There are a couple reasons you don’t want to ask a women on a date.

When asking a girl out on a date, she will automatically see if she’s attracted to you or not. She has to figure out her interest level in you in less then a minute.

What is it you need to know? A woman doesn’t want to lead a guy on. But she also isn’t sure if she is interested in you at that very moment. So when you see someone on the street and you ask for her number. She will tend to say No. It doesn’t necessarily mean you weren’t her type. But you made her decide “On the Spot” if she wanted to give you her personal information.

Most women are not attracted to you immediately. Unless its on looks alone. If you rely on pure sex appeal, your really relying on “luck.”

Here’s the better approach.

Don’t move so fast. Be patient.

What is the most relaxed environment for a date?

Going out to dinner. Where you both will have to be on your best behavior. Where the romantic setting will not allow you both to feel more at ease and casual. Or, a fun environment such as an amusement park or sporting event. Somewhere where you both can let your guard down and have a little fun. So that you can really be yourself.

Keep this in your mind. The dinner might have more of an edge you were hoping for. But you need to keep HER needs in mind. It’s about forgetting what you want. Long enough, that she can believe you will give her what SHE wants.

What you need to do is start low. If you meet a women on the street. Ask her if she has a few minutes for coffee or tea. Take the opportunity to get to know her. If she doesn’t have time for a drink. Then ask for her phone number and/or email address. Since she may not want to accept at this moment with such a casual invitiation for coffee/tea. She’s more likely to agree to give out her contact information. Most likely, writing it down for you. The main key is to come off as confident but fun. Even a little innocent teasing can be helpful so she doesn’t feel too weirded out by giving you her personal information